Girl toys, boy toys, and parenting:
The science of toy preferences in children
© 2009-2012 Gwen Dewar, Ph.D., all rights reserved
Yes, there are "girl toys" and "boy toys."
But are gender-typical toys merely a matter of cultural training?
Parents with sons and daughters often see differences in the way their kids play. And research confirms it:
Boys usually spend more time in “rough and tumble” play.
Are boys more physical because we encourage them? Probably. In most
cultures, the pattern is the same: People are more likely to train boys
to be tough, strong, aggressive, and competitive (Low 1989).
But that doesn’t mean behavior is entirely determined by social factors. Child’s play is also influenced by prenatal development. In a
study of fetal testosterone, researchers measured hormone levels in the
amniotic fluid of pregnant women. Then they tracked the children for
several years after birth.
The results? Testosterone levels were higher in male fetuses, of
course. But female fetuses were exposed to some testosterone, too. And
fetal testosterone was linked with rough-and-tumble play. The higher the
testosterone levels, the more likely the child was to exhibit
“male-typical” behaviors (Auyeung et al 2009).
These findings are consistent with experiments on nonhuman
animals. If you artificially boost male hormone levels in developing
females, they engage in more male-typical play. If you artificially reduce male hormone levels in males, they engage in less male-typical play (Hines 2006).
So are preferences for “girl toys” and “boy toys” biologically determined?
It's more complicated than that. Maybe the male preference for
rough-and-tumble play can explain the way that kids play with their
toys. But that doesn’t make the toys themselves intrinsically male or
Give a girl some plastic dinosaurs, and she might do several
things--act out a drama, take the dinosaurs “foraging,” or treat the
toys as pets. A boy might be more likely to stage dinosaur battles.
Perhaps it's not the toys that define male-typical play, but what boys
do with their toys.
And there is another interesting point. In studies that have
tested the toy preferences of Western children, boys and girls weren’t
equally attracted to gender-typical toys. Whereas most boys had strong
preferences for gender-typical toys, girls did not.
Thus, whether or not boys are predisposed to prefer “boy toys,” there is no reason to think that girls are predisposed to reject toys that are stereotypically male.
Here’s an example.
Most young boys want “male” toys…even if the parents aren’t pushing them
In a study of American preschoolers (ages 2 to 5), Clyde Robinson and
James Morris asked parents what their children had gotten for
Christmas. Some gifts had been requested by the kids themselves. Other
gifts were chosen solely by the parents.
As it turns out, the toys the kids requested for themselves were
more likely to be gender-stereotyped (e.g., boys asked for “masculine”
toys). When parents chose the toys, they tended to give gender-neutral
gifts, like art supplies, musical instruments, and educational toys
(Robinson and Morris 1986).
Not terribly surprising, right? But here’s the kicker. In the Robinson and Morris study, it was mostly the boys who were requesting gender-stereotyped toys.
At every age, about 75% of their requests were for “boy toys.”
But girls didn’t show a similar preference for gender-stereotyped toys
until they were 5 years old.
This asymmetry has been documented in many studies (Berenbaum and
Hines 1992; Carter and Levy 1988; Eisenberg and Wolchik 1985;
Sutton-Smith and Rosenberg 1963. Boys show strong preferences for
stereotypically male toys. Girls don’t show strong preferences for stereotypically female toys. The only exception I've found is a study that examined the toy preferences in infants (Alexander and Saenz 2012).
Why the difference? Some researchers have suggested that boys
show a stronger sex bias than girls do because boys get more criticism
for crossing the toy gender line. Kids of both sexes are encouraged to
play with “gender-typical” toys. But boys may be more strongly
stigmatized for playing in gender atypical ways (Kane 2006).
That sounds right to me. Surely culture and social pressures have
a huge impact on what children think is an acceptable toy. But I also
wonder if hormones--and the brain differences caused by hormones--play a
role in toy preferences.
That idea is consistent with a recent study of testosterone (T)
levels in toddlers. Researchers in Finland tracked T levels in 48
newborns for 6 months, and then tested the children's toy preferences
when they were 14 months old. Girls were more likely to play with toy
trains if they had exhibited higher T levels as infants. Boys with lower
T levels were more likely to play with dolls (Lamminmäki et al 2012).
Intriguing? Certainly. But the most fascinating evidence may come from studies of nonhuman primates.
Monkeys aren't exposed to cultural messages about what toys they
should play with. And yet they show sex-biased patterns. In one
experiment, Janice Hassett and her colleagues presented male and female
rhesus monkeys with a choice of toys--wheeled vehicles vs. plush toys.
The male monkeys showed a strong and consistent preference for the
wheeled toys. The female monkeys showed no strong preference either way
(Hassett et al 2008).
In another experiment on vervet monkeys, Gerianne Alexander and
Melissa Hines presented monkeys with a series of different toys. The
researchers didn’t test toy preferences directly, because monkeys only
saw one toy at a time. But Alexander and Hines did find that females
were more likely to pick up dolls than were males. And the male monkeys
were more likely than females to handle toy cars (Alexander and Hines
Are these experiments the last word on sex-biased toy
preferences? Of course not. But they do suggest that sex-based
preferences can arise in the absence of human cultural influences. It
seems unlikely that social pressures can explain why male monkeys prefer toys with wheels.
Of course, this begs the question. What is intrinsically male
about a toy truck--something that wasn’t even invented until the 20th
We’re a long way from answering that rather imponderable question. But there are some hints.
For instance, there is some evidence that males tend to prefer
looking at mechanical motion rather than biological motion. In one
experiment, researchers presented 12-month old babies with videos of
cars and faces. Male babies looked longer at images of moving cars. Girl
babies looked longer at videos of moving faces (Lutchmaya and
And, as noted by Christina Williams and Kristen Pleil--who
conducted their own toy experiments--toy trucks have interesting
apertures to investigate, and may lend themselves to certain kinds of
mechanical exploration that simply don’t apply to most soft toys or
dolls (Williams and Pleil 2009).
So maybe toy trucks--which exhibit internal motion and have
intriguing surfaces to explore--are more appealing to individuals
interested in mechanically-oriented play (Williams and Pleil 2009).
Toys that get noticed
Another idea that occurs to me is that toy vehicles are
relatively noisy, disruptive toys. Push a doll, and it doesn’t travel
far, nor does it make noise. By contrast, you can really raise a
ruckus--and get attention--with a toy truck.
The “ruckus” factor may be relevant because loud noises and commotion
are key ingredients in many nonhuman primate dominance displays. Perhaps
the most famous case was Mike, a smart chimpanzee who rose to power in
Gombe National Park by inventing new, intimidating dominance displays.
Mike took old gasoline cans (borrowed from Jane Goodall’s camp) and made
tremendous commotion—throwing, slapping, and rolling the cans along the
Perhaps, then, natural selection has favored males who seek out and tinker with objects that can make a ruckus. But whatever explains the male preference for mechanical play, we
should consider: Mechanical play hones spatial skills, and spatial
skills are key for success in a variety of fields, including art,
architecture, engineering, and the physical sciences.
And while it’s likely that doll play has its own benefits,
highly-sexualized dolls may teach girls to value themselves primarily
for their physical appearance – not a promising recipe for intellectual
So there are good reasons to counter the cultural pressures that
push kids into sex-stereotyped play. To read more about the links
between play and spatial skills, see my article, "Spatial intelligence in children: Why training matters." You can also check out my evidence-based activities for improving spatial skills in kids.
For more information about the harmful effects of sexualizing childhood, see my article,
“The sexualization of girls: Is the popular culture harming our kids?”
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