Family sleep tips and topics:
A guide for the science-minded parent
© 2008 Gwen Dewar, all rights reserved
Welcome to your source for sleep tips and articles based on the latest research in anthropology, brain science, sleep science, and pediatrics. Here you’ll find information about
baby sleep
. You'll also find one of the most extensively researched, evidence-based discussions of
child sleep requirements
available on the web for parents. And check out these articles concerning a variety of sleep-related problems:
• Signs of sleep deprivation
• Nightmares and night terrors in children
• Helping children cope with nighttime fears and separation anxiety
• Night wakings—-causes and solutions
• Bedtime problems
• The Ferber method of sleep training and its alternatives
• Gentle, “no cry” sleep training programs
As with other offerings at Parenting Science.com, each of these articles includes full scientific references—-so you can review the evidence for yourself. In addition, the articles include cross-cultural and evolutionary perspectives on sleep—perspectives that are usually ignored by the mainstream parenting media. These perspectives can be extremely helpful to parents, because the sleep tips found in popular parenting books and magazines are often shaped by Western cultural assumptions that do NOT reflect universal, biological truths about sleep. Below I provide a brief introduction to the anthropology of sleep, and I preview the topics covered in these pages.
Western sleep practices in anthropological perspective
Most of the sleep tips you’ll find in parenting books and magazines are based on Western cultural assumptions about what constitutes “good” sleep. In particular, Westerners are often expected to• Keep up fairly rigid sleep schedules (observing the same bedtime each night and awakening at the same time each day) • Sleep through the night without interruption • Avoid daytime naps, and • Insist that their children sleep apart from adults—even during infancy In addition, modern Westerners—and people living in other parts of the industrialized world—subject themselves to artificial lights and electronic entertainments before bedtime. These influences re-set the brain’s internal clock and make it difficult to fall asleep. Viewed from a cross-cultural perspective, such practices are unusual (Worthman and Melby 2002; Jenni and O’Connor 2005). They also represent a profound departure from the likely sleep patterns of our ancestors. If you’re struggling with sleep problems—and trying to evaluate popular sleep tips for coping with them—it may be helpful to keep these ancestral sleep patterns in mind: • Our ancestors probably didn’t satisfy all their sleep requirements in one, lengthy nocturnal sleep bout. Instead, people probably slept for a few hours at a time, awakened for an hour or more, and then slept again. In other words, nobody—not even adults—were expected to “sleep through the night.” This was the pattern in pre-industrial Europe (Ekirch 2005), and it’s still the pattern in many non-Western societies today (Worthman and Melby 2002). For more information, see my article on
night wakings.
It includes sleep tips for coping with children who awaken frequently at night. • Our ancestors didn’t have clocks and rigid work schedules that required them to be awake and alert at the exactly same time every day. As a result, they would have had more “downtime,” more flexibility regarding the timing of sleep, and more naps. Again, this is the pattern in many non-Western cultures today (Worthman and Melby 2002). • Throughout evolutionary history, humans have organized their activities by the rising and the setting of the sun. Without electricity, they spent more time in darkness, and avoided the circadian rhythm sleep disorders caused by artificial lighting at night. • Without modern technologies to protect them, our ancestors’ most pressing sleep problem was getting through the night without being attacked by predators or intruders. People who “slept like logs” or who were unfazed by mysterious night noises would have been less likely to survive and pass on their genes. People who slept alone—without the benefit of multiple eyes and ears to help keep watch—would have been at a similar disadvantage. Seeking safety in numbers, our ancestors slept in groups. • For the reasons just stated, children—the most vulnerable members of their group—weren’t left to sleep alone. And if children cried out in the night—attracting the attention of predators—it made sense to quiet them down as soon as possible.
Implications for you and your family
The review of ancestral sleep patterns suggests several important points. For most of human history • Kids weren’t expected to sleep through the night. • Their internal, biological clocks were rarely out-of-sync with the natural 24-hour day. • If children or their parents were tired during the day, their schedules permitted them to nap. • Being easily aroused during the night was normal and adaptive. So was being cautious or fearful about things go bump in the night. So was responding promptly to your child’s cries. • Kids didn’t sleep alone. Being alone meant abandonment, injury, or death. Does this mean we must live like Pleistocene hunter-gatherers to sleep well? No. But it should make us question cultural practices and sleep tips that depart radically from the ancestral pattern. And it offers some helpful insights for solving child sleep problems. First, many child sleep problems aren’t pathological in the sense of being “unnatural” or biologically abnormal. When kids suffer from nighttime fears or resist going to bed by themselves, they may be expressing psychologically normal, healthy responses. Second—no matter what any sleep researcher, pediatrician, or nosy relative might say—your urge to soothe your child to sleep is biologically normal. Parents should keep this in mind if they feel pressured to try out sleep tips or sleep training programs that violate their parental instincts. Third, many sleep problems may be caused by a “poor fit” between our cultural practices and our cultural needs. For example, Western children often resist going to bed at night. In part, these bedtime battles may be caused by the practice of solitary sleeping--a Western custom that may trigger separation anxiety in young children.
(For sleep tips on coping with bedtime resistance, see this article on bedtime problems in children.)
The bottom line? Before you take any sleep advice to heart—or let someone convince you that your family’s sleep practices are “wrong”—you should exercise a healthy skepticism. An anthropological approach to sleep can help us distinguish what aspects of sleep are essential—and what aspects are culturally “optional.” The articles in these pages will help you decide which sleep solutions are best for you and your children.
Baby sleep tips and topics
Western sleep practices may be poorly matched to the needs of some kids and adults (Jenni and O’Connor 2005). For babies, the “fit” may be even worse. In particular, Western cultural expectations about solitary sleeping and “sleeping through the night” may cause families considerable distress. But whether you accept or reject Western sleep practices, there is much you can do to minimize sleep problems during infancy. For information about sleep in infants—including sleep requirements, sleep patterns, and a variety of practical sleep tips—-see this
collection of articles on baby sleep.
How much sleep does your child need?
Parents often worry that there children don’t get enough sleep—and with good reason. National sleep surveys suggest that many kids get much less sleep than they need, and sleep deprivation may be harming their health and cognitive development.But how can you tell if your child is sleeping enough? When I first began researching sleep requirements, I assumed that those authoritative charts we see published everywhere—the ones telling us that the average newborn needs 16 hours of sleep, for example—were based on scientifically-established, physiological needs. I was wrong. It turns out that no one really knows how much sleep children need for optimal health and growth. And kids—like adults—may vary considerably in their individual requirements. So if you really want to understand your child’s personal sleep needs, you need to go beyond the published sleep charts. In this article on
sleep requirements,
I review the latest scientific evidence and discuss ways to apply this information to your family. In my article on
sleep deprivation,
I outline the symptoms and signs of insufficient sleep in babies, children, and adults. Together, these articles will help you identify your child’s individualized sleep requirements.
Why can't your child sleep?
According to Western sleep studies, bedtime “resistance” and frequent night wakings are among the most common sleep complaints that parents report to their pediatricians (Mindell et al 2006).
What causes kids to resist bedtime? Or awaken frequently at night? These sleep problems may stem from a variety of causes, and it’s important to understand why your child can’t sleep before you attempt treatment. In many cases, kids may suffer from nocturnal fears and anxieties. For more information, see my article on
nighttime fears in children.
It explores the evolutionary basis for nighttime fears and discusses why kids are biologically unprepared to handle nighttime fears on their own. It also offers practical advice for helping your child overcome her fears.For other sleep tips, see my articles on
bedtime problems,
night wakings,
and
nightmares and night terrors.
The article on bedtime problems includes a “trouble-shooting” checklist to help you identify why your child may have trouble falling asleep. The article on night wakings reviews the science of disrupted sleep, and includes practical sleep tips for improving the quality of your child’s sleep. The article on nightmares and night terrors helps you distinguish between these two conditions, and offers sleep tips for treating them.
Sleep training
The Ferber method—also called “graduated extinction”—is one of the most famous sleep training programs. It is also one of the most controversial, primarily because it involves a degree of “crying it out.” For a detailed account of graduated extinction—including arguments for and against its use—see this article on the
Ferber method.
As I note in this article, the Ferber method appears to be very effective in some respects, but it may be associated with harmful side effects.The Ferber method is not the only effective training program available. Parents who do not believe in leaving their children to “cry it out” have other options, and these appear to be as effective as Ferber sleep training. For more information, see this article on
“no cry” sleep training for children over 6 months old.
References: Family sleep tips and topics
Ekirch AR. 2005. At Day's Close: Night in Times Past. New York: WW Norton.Jenni OG and O’Connor BB. 2005. Children’s sleep: An interplay between culture and biology. Pediatrics 115: 204-215. Mindell JA, Kuhn B, Lewin DS, Meltzer LJ, Sadeh A and the American Academy of Sleep Medicine. 2006. Behavioral treatment of bedtime problems and night wakings in infants and young children. Sleep 29: 1263-1281. C.M. Worthman and M. Melby. 2002. Toward a comparative developmental ecology of human sleep. In: Adolescent Sleep Patterns: Biological, Social, and Psychological Influences, M.A. Carskadon, ed. New York: Cambridge University Press, pp. 69-117. Content last modified 3/09

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